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Wendy Swanson's avatar

I always love your stuff, but was really disturbed by the social media information provided on this episode. I adamantly disagree with your guest and it goes against a ton of research and information by mental heath professionals. She called out The Anxious Generation book as being essentially bad information. I couldn’t disagree more.

Cody J's avatar

I think it’s great that you have differing opinions on here, since people need to hear both sides.

On the alcohol topic - I appreciate Dean’s opinion, especially the end where he’s not saying everyone should add it back in if they are otherwise happy. He’s obviously someone that lives in cities, likes to bar hop, do adventurous things, and the inhibition lowering affect of alcohol does him a lot of good. He also might have given up on being sober too soon and never learned how to be more open and lower inhibition without needing alcohol to do so. Kids don’t meed alcohol to be goofy and have fun. Adults don’t either, but it takes time and effort to do so. If you’re not willing to work on that while sober, alcohol might be best for those people.

In Wendy Bounds book or other anecdotes of people opening up and lowering inhibition while drinking - it’s nice alcohol gives them that feeling of finally letting loose a little bit but there’s also a sadness there - that so many can’t do so without the help of alcohol. That’s not exactly healthy either.

The other issue is Dean and others act like they’re only having 1-2 drinks which is likely not the case. It’s more like 2-3 and 4-6+ on his bar hopping nights. If that’s once a month that’s fine but people struggle having just 1-2 drinks.

Most people have at least 50-100+ days/events a year (birthdays, holidays, weddings, parties, work happy hours, vacations, etc) where they will have a drink which usually ends up being 2-3 drinks. Thats a lot of days and therefore lot of nights with poor food choices and poor sleep. That adds up.

I feel like in an ideal world, kids would be more emotionally vulnerable and outgoing, and go into adulthood with 3rd places that don’t need drinking to get the much needed socialization and fun.

With screen time going up, that seems unlikely… so maybe they and a lot of us do need to drink a little more.

It seems like Dean ultimately likes fun in his life and he thinks alcohol helps him with that.

What is Catherine Price’s opinion on FUN without alcohol? Interviewing her and focusing on the nuance of alcohol vs non alcohol fun, and third places with or without alcohol would be an interesting conversation!

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