“In my neighborhood, people who have everything they need but are rarely challenged lose their minds over mild inconveniences, like the trash being picked up late or a weed in another neighbor’s yard.” THIS IS SO TRUE.
Michael, thanks to you I have signed up for my first DEKA in July and my first camping / hiking trip in the Rockies this year. Against what most people say around me “that’s too difficult” ..” u won’t make it”. I’m training hard for it and it is already changing my life. Thanks for your work! God bless!
What I find incredibly difficult is applying this to parenting to keep my kids in that sweet spot of some challenge. It’s tough to fight your own instincts of wanting to make life better and easier for them, but also balance not going overboard every now and then.
The heart of this concept is exactly why I'm a big proponent of solo travel, at least occasionally. Or really, even just any kind of international travel. You're not doing anything overly extreme, yet you're being pushed out of your comfort zone where there are language barriers, currency conversations, unfamiliar navigation, new food discovery, and so on (all this is assuming "international travel" doesn't mean staying at a walled-off all-inclusive resort). You have to react to a lot of unfamiliar circumstances and work through them, and as a result you build your resiliency for dealing with unexpected problems in day-to-day life. All while taking a vacation--can't beat it.
This is such an interesting topic and one I've been thinking about, and thinking about writing about, all year. Mainly, the thing that interests me is what exactly constitutes the sweet spot of hardship? I completely endorse the idea that moderate difficulty is so good for you, while, on the other hand, have had a couple painful experiences that didn't seem to make me stronger or tougher — they just plain sucked. So what are the qualities of the type of adversity that creates growth rather than problems? You mention that it can't feel too overwhelming or uncontrollable. I wonder where the lines are there. I would theorize too that experiences that you choose, rather than those that happen *to* you, would be more likely to be catalysts for positive growth, though stuff that befalls you can surely be as well. Anyway, pondering what the parameters of the sweet spot are is fascinating!
This reminds me of the Biosphere 2 Experiment with the trees in a dome … without any wind they just fall over. They need stress to build up strength and flexibility. We are trees.
“In my neighborhood, people who have everything they need but are rarely challenged lose their minds over mild inconveniences, like the trash being picked up late or a weed in another neighbor’s yard.” THIS IS SO TRUE.
My HOA's Facebook group is the online Mecca of first-world problems.
Michael, thanks to you I have signed up for my first DEKA in July and my first camping / hiking trip in the Rockies this year. Against what most people say around me “that’s too difficult” ..” u won’t make it”. I’m training hard for it and it is already changing my life. Thanks for your work! God bless!
I love hearing this. Great work.
You have done a remarkable way of describing the “one day at a time” of recovery. Thanks always appreciate the clarity you bring to each article.
What I find incredibly difficult is applying this to parenting to keep my kids in that sweet spot of some challenge. It’s tough to fight your own instincts of wanting to make life better and easier for them, but also balance not going overboard every now and then.
The heart of this concept is exactly why I'm a big proponent of solo travel, at least occasionally. Or really, even just any kind of international travel. You're not doing anything overly extreme, yet you're being pushed out of your comfort zone where there are language barriers, currency conversations, unfamiliar navigation, new food discovery, and so on (all this is assuming "international travel" doesn't mean staying at a walled-off all-inclusive resort). You have to react to a lot of unfamiliar circumstances and work through them, and as a result you build your resiliency for dealing with unexpected problems in day-to-day life. All while taking a vacation--can't beat it.
This is such an interesting topic and one I've been thinking about, and thinking about writing about, all year. Mainly, the thing that interests me is what exactly constitutes the sweet spot of hardship? I completely endorse the idea that moderate difficulty is so good for you, while, on the other hand, have had a couple painful experiences that didn't seem to make me stronger or tougher — they just plain sucked. So what are the qualities of the type of adversity that creates growth rather than problems? You mention that it can't feel too overwhelming or uncontrollable. I wonder where the lines are there. I would theorize too that experiences that you choose, rather than those that happen *to* you, would be more likely to be catalysts for positive growth, though stuff that befalls you can surely be as well. Anyway, pondering what the parameters of the sweet spot are is fascinating!
This reminds me of the Biosphere 2 Experiment with the trees in a dome … without any wind they just fall over. They need stress to build up strength and flexibility. We are trees.
The audio itself is good but for me there were a lot of very weird AI moments and noises.
The audio version in this episode is horrible,
Love the content, but just asking if possible to check it and fix it.
The audio for me was just fine